Dating life of the 80s
Those that stand true to who they are seem to be the ones who find solid relationships. What we consider common sense is very different.” “When I first started dating my husband he was embarrassed to hold hands with me in public.In my case, for instance, men are quick to bring up the topic of bikinis and love hotels the minute I mention I’m Latina. For a long while, after the loss of someone I planned on spending my entire life with, I gave in to that stereotype and was unable to get involved in a serious relationship.” “Now, I’m in a happy relationship with an older man who doesn’t speak a lick of English or Spanish, which is my main language. For one, I’m very passionate in my way of moving and speaking, and I sometimes forget to respect personal space. This applied more in Japan than when we were in England, although now he seems completely okay with it.These are the types of guys I feel we foreign girls encounter most. ” I think that’s generally a big problem – not only when trying to find an “honest” relationship, but also true friends.I’ve heard from many people that they were just “used” as an opportunity to get free English lessons (or whatever their native language was).Just like with any place you go, you have your good guys and your bad guys.” “During my first couple of years here, I encountered a lot of guys whose interest in me came purely from the fact that I was foreign.They wanted to know all about Puerto Rico and always brought up the fact that one day, I’d return to my own country.” “Now that I’m older, I still come across a lot of men who seem interested in dating a foreigner for language reasons.
Very touchy feely Japanese couples are definitely NOT the norm.” “Long working hours and overtime are common here in Japan.
And from these differences, the biggest one would be language.
No matter how fluent each of us becomes in our second language, something is always lost in translation, and that can quickly escalate into a huge argument until we don’t even remember what we started arguing about in the first place.
But there’s nothing we can really do other than keep studying and keep trying.
So for that part, a significant amount of patience might be necessary.” “Another difference I noticed has to do with taking care of the household.